bear gebhardt

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The Smoker Identity Is a Hitchhiker!

Let’s pretend that when you were younger, just for fun, and to have an adventure, you picked up a hitchhiker– the smoker identity. You were a brave, fun-loving soul! Ahh, youth! Naturally, when the hitchhiker first hopped in you asked, “where you going?” “No where special,” the hitchhiker replied. “Where you going?” “I’m just going …

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A Craving is Like A Buzzing Bee

      You ever get a bee in your bonnet? Or in your hat?  In your car?  All of sudden, you’re not thinking of anything, else, right? Everything in your life, except that bee, is immediately back burner. You need to do something about that buzzing bee and you need to do it now. When you …

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What Does a Non-Smoker Look Like?

A client confessed recently that he could not envision himself as a  non-smoker. He had cut down considerably over the time that we had been working together, but was not able to “get over the hump” to completely walk away. “I’ve been smoking for over forty years,” he said. “I don’t know who I’d be without …

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When That Little Thief Finally Leaves

“The metaphor is probably the most fertile power possessed by man.” —-Ortega E. Gassett Here’s a metaphor: Imagine as a kid you started hanging out with neighborhood pals, one of whom was a lot of fun, very likeable and adventurous, but also a little bit of a petty thief. Over the years most of the …

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How Attention Keeps Us Addicted to Smoking, and Attention Is the Key to Quitting

What does it mean when someone says, “Pay Attention!” Aren’t they asking for what is most real of us, most precious, most intimate? Our attention is our aliveness! One researcher called attention, the “last refuge of privacy.” So when someone demands, “Pay Attention!” they’re demanding a lot! They‘re demanding our very life. Cigarettes demand our …

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I Ain’t Going to Work on Maggie’s Farm No More

A non-combatant’s view of the book selling wars I’m tickled to announce that my new book, Practicing the Presence of Peace, has just been released by Pathbinder Books. It’s currently available through Amazon and Barnes and Noble (and from fine bookstores near you, if you actually go to the desk and ask them to order …

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Our basic theme: Beating up smokers doesn’t work!

A place for smokers to talk and share notes – Go to our Smokers’ Forum A place for professionals to talk – Go to our Professionals’ Forum A place for families to get help – Go to our Family Support Forum Free Consultation – Fill up our Contact Form Award winning books – Check out …

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